I hate playing dating games
It has to be clear to him that you have a life away from him. You know you are in this game when there are no set plans. This only applies if you are happy with who you are.
If not, then it might be time to start making some changes in the way you do things. If the situation I described earlier were reversed, you would lose respect and attraction for him. At least, not with a mutual respect for each other, which is necessary for any healthy relationship.
This will also cause him to lose attraction and respect for you. It can even be vocal comparisons between you and other women. By offering slightly less, you keep him intrigued. The last thing you want to do is try to pretend you are someone that you are not. The biggest purpose for it though is to ensure the balance is slightly tipped in your favor as opposed to his.
All you want to do is create a level playing field, nothing more and nothing less. He sometimes takes hours to return texts or phone calls, and is often not available when you want to get together. If you are going to slightly tip the balance, then make sure it is in your favor, which in the end benefits both of you.
If he was in your friendzone, he would not know what you look like naked or how you like to be touched. This can help you give you an edge, and can get him chasing you more.
If he likes you, then great. If you win you will be miserable. The relationship death camp. The amount of interest you show has to be equal to what you are getting from the other person. Because she deserves as much.
You just need to be mindful of the balance necessary to start your relationship off on solid ground. Oh, you can, and you should. That means you are an individual, not some college boy trying to save face among your friends. Men know this and will use it against you to get what they want. It takes a certain amount of commitment but not so much commitment to indicate permanence.
But some mind games are not meant to be won. Dating mind games are suppose to be fun. The jealousy game will always be a pitiful tit-for-tat game that will kill your relationship. Ladies, time to toughen up and stop playing mind games against men you will never win.
You also need to look at your track record. It should be equally balanced. It can be the wandering eye in public. But I also know the dating world is an emotional minefield where one wrong step can blow your relationship to bits. Flush every single one of them, because they are the sad, juvenile crap you learned at Beta Alpha Episilon, the collected misguided wisdom of a bunch of manboys masquerading as cool guys.
Your confidence with men will start to grow, making you feel like a more powerful woman. That means each of you should be treated like individuals, with feelings and vulnerabilities and all the other stuff that you didn't learn while playing Doom six hours a day.
You know you are in this game when you are living together, may or may not be engaged, but you are not legally committed. The female friend you have never met that he talks to about your relationship. This leaves you vulnerable and open to being taken advantage of. This is the attitude you have to portray not only to him, but to yourself as well. Trust me, a bunch of fraternity guys don't know squat about women.
That purpose should be your guide in knowing when to walk away and to know when you have a good man. If you lose you will be miserable. You are engaged but a wedding date is still up in the air.